Get to Know Tonks

Quick Facts

  • She would kiss your face forever if you didn’t stop her.
  • But her kisses are so gentle, you almost don’t mind.
  • If she is up on her hind legs looking at you, it’s because you have something she wants.
  • Tonks will do almost anything to be pet as a reward.
  • She enjoys sleeping above my head on a pile of down pillows.
  • She doesn’t usually like kisses, however, if I’m giving a lot to Remus then she wants some too.
  • Goes frantic over seaweed (or any food).

Selfie of Hillary and Tonks

Our Story

Why not?

It started off as a small idea.. Why not get a second dog?  Really, what harm could it do?  I’ve got one already, two can’t be much worse.  So, I took to the internet and searched for dogs available for adoption in South Korea.  I utilized two websites: Craigslist and and Rescue Korea.  Later, I sent messages to about 4 or 5 people asking about the dogs for adoption.  I didn’t want a puppy (did not want to house train right now) and I wanted to ask about a trial run to see if the new dog would get along with Remus.  After all, Remus is my first priority.  Eventually, everyone got back to me saying there was already a list of people interested, but that they would get back to me if others fell through.  I decided that since things didn’t work out, Remus would continue as an only child.  That’s what was meant to happen, right?

Picture of Tonks from her Adoption Profile
Picture of Tonks from her Adoption Profile

The Email

About two or three months had passed when I did something strange.  I decided to check my email.  This doesn’t sound that strange, but it is for someone like me who only checks email while at work.  I see a frantic email from a man named Tim.  Apparently I had messaged Tim about his dog that was up for adoption.  At the time, there was a long line of people, but all potentials fell through and he would be leaving South Korea in 2 months.  His dog needed to find a home, and fast.  I sat for a while and thought about it… Is this the right decision for me now?  I had changed my mind about getting a second dog, but now I’m questioning it.  The last thing I wanted was for his dog to end up in a shelter in Korea.  Hearing of any dog going to a shelter breaks my heart, but in Korea the conditions are worse and usually dire.  In the end, my heart won over my head.

Picture of Tonks from her Adoption Profile
Picture of Tonks from her Adoption Profile

Her Goodbye

After talking to Tim for a bit, we decided to do a pick up in about a month.  That means I only had weeks to prepare my home and figure out the best way to introduce another dog to Remus.  Eventually, I decided this couldn’t be done alone and I needed a partner.  I enlisted the help of my friend.  The plan: drive 2 hours to pick up Tonks, have her sit in a booster seat in the back with my friend, drive two hours back, drop Tonks and my friend off at the beach, go pick up Remus, and have them meet at the beach before going back home together.

I met Tim at the train station and he talked to me about Tonks and walked me through her toys and treats.  As he went to say goodbye, it truly broke my heart.  He didn’t want to leave her, but he needed to go back to his home country and take care of his parents.  One of his parents was dealing with lung issues, while the other was allergic to dogs.  Seeing him break down as he handed her over, reminded me of how I felt dropping Remus off before I came to Korea.  And I knew it was just for 1 year.  This was going to be a forever kind of goodbye.

A picture of Remus and Tonks after first meeting
Remus and Tonks after first meeting

The Meeting

Driving home felt like it took forever, but we made it!  As the dogs met at the beach, they seemed… not friendly, but not bothered by the presence of the other.  I was worried about their attitudes after going back to the apartment, but we couldn’t stay outside forever.  Remus seemed a bit confused as to why this new dog was coming with us, but he accepted her inside.  However, he didn’t want her getting to close to him and didn’t like her on the bed.  I did a ton of research beforehand and the internet says to give your original dog lots of attention so they don’t get jealous and lash out.  Also, you need to make it known that the original dog was the “alpha” and let them set the ton of interactions.  I gave tons of treats and everyone pretty much settled in!

Remus and Tonks Together
Remus and Tonks after a few days of settling in

My Misconception

I mistakenly thought that they would immediately become fast friends and be completely comfortable with each other.  It’s been a little over 3 months now since Tonks has arrived and they are still working out little kinks here and there.  Each day they get closer and close.  Recently, they are allowing sniffing of each other.  Not an “on alert” kind of sniff, but a comfortable, I-know-you-aren’t-a-threat kind of sniff.  They both sleep on the bed, albeit on opposite sides of me.  However, they do allow occasional contact in passing and will sometimes touch butts during nap time cuddle sessions.  She genuinely brings joy into my life, and I do think Remus doesn’t mind having her around the apartment.  There is still lots of room to grow, but I’m learning to be patient.

Tonks Photo Gallery

My Life with Dogs Illustrated Using 5 Children’s Books

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Remus and Tonks… Where to begin?  Whoever said “two is better than one” never had more than one dog.  My two dogs are the loves of my life and also the bane of my existence.  I will now list 5 children’s books that perfectly depict my relationship with my dogs.

  1. No, David by David Shannon

    No, David by David Shannon Book Cover
    I’m positive I say “No” to my dogs more than anything else, but mostly to Tonks.  Tonks intensely stares at my plate of food, “No, Tonks.”  I stop petting Tonks after 20 minutes and she paws at me for more, “No, Tonks.”  Tonks cries on the floor because she wants me to pick her up instead of using the bed stairs, “No, Tonks.”  I haven’t had Tonks for very long so she is still learning the house rules.  As for Remus, he loves giving me puppy dog eyes to try and get me to pick up his toy that fell of the bed, “No, Remus.”

  2. If You Give a Mouse a Cookie by Laura Numeroff

    If You Give a Mouse a Cookie - Cover
    You give’em something and they are not content, they just want more!  For example, when I’m cutting fruit or vegetables I’ll occasionally give them a small piece.  Remus knows that one piece does not mean he will get more.  Tonks has not learned that yet.  One day I was cutting bananas and I gave each of the dogs a small bit.  From that day forward, she will sit and stare at me as I’m chopping.  Another example would be how Remus and Tonks refuse to just sleep on the bed.  The prince and princess want to sleep on a pillow on the bed.  I now have 4 down pillows on my bed because my dogs stole my first two pillows.  They are so spoiled.

  3. Goodnight, Moon by Margaret Wise Brown

    Goodnight Moon - Cover
    This is all Remus.  We can’t just go to bed, that would be too easy.  Before we go to bed, Remus has to gather all his toys and bring them on the bed.  Heaven forbid we try to sleep without all his toys.  Not only that, but he keeps his favorite toy in his mouth when he sleeps.  It wouldn’t bother me much, but it’s wasn’t directly in my face.  Every night, I go to sleep with either a slobbery, half-stuffed toy in my face, or Remus’s farting butt in my face.  In contrast, Tonks sleeps like a princess on the pillows above my head.

  4. Go the Fuck to Sleep by Adam Mansbach


    I frequently question if Remus is a dog or some other animal.  He is nocturnal.  I’ll try to play with him after our evening walk and he just wants to cuddle next to me.  However, as soon as the lights go off he’s full of energy and trying to get me to play fetch with him.  “Remus, go to sleep.”  No, thanks!  “Remus, it’s bed time.”  I’d rather play!  “REMUS, BED TIME!” Ugh, you’re such a drag… Meanwhile, Tonks is giving me a WTF look and while pawing at me for more pets.

  5. Love You Forever by Robert Munsch

    Love You Forever by Robert Munsch Book Cover
    At the end of the day, there is no one I love more than Remus and Tonks.  I wake up to millions of dog kisses.  I come home and they are excited to see me.  I go to sleep never wanting for cuddles.  Yes, sometimes I need a break because they do drive me crazy.  But above all, my life wouldn’t be as wonderful if they weren’t in it.